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- We cherish all your concerns.
Nationwide concern contest.
- Let me introduce our guests today.
Singer, Hwang Chi-yeol.
The cute members of Oh My Girl,
Hyo-jung and Ji-ho.
- Hello.
- So scary.
- Thank you.
- Ji-ho, I heard you were glad to hear that Chi-yeol would be on the show.
- His dialect is very attractive. - His dialect.
- I...
I forgot how to speak dialect. - What?
- You're using in right now. - Right now...
- I'm an MC for 'Immortal Song'. - That's right.
- I think I came in first place
because of Young-ja.
- For the 300th episode special, hosts from KBS entertainment shows came on.
And the team 'Hello' took victory.
- Really?
Wow.
- I knew everyone was really good at this,
but Dong-yeob came on the stage.
- Good-bye.
- How can you forget me?
- I was so shocked and surprised
to see Young-ja do headbanging.
- She wasn't just headbanging,
she untied her hair.
- She was headbanging with her hair down,
She looked like a buffalo.
- I've never heard a buffalo before.
- Oh My Girl, what's the name of your new song?
- It's called 'Coloring Book'.
- Please show us
- We have 3 concerns today.
Let's look at the concern keywords.
- 'Please fix him'
- 'Where did you come from?' 'A nice guy, a bad guy'
- A woman in her 30s sent us this concern.
Can I ask you to fix something?
It was made in 1973, it's 175cm tall, and it weighs 65kg.
65...
- So light.
- How old were you? - There's something wrong.
- 65kg of the past.
- Of the past. - Past.
- A long time ago.
- I chose it very carefully,
but it's full of flaws.
What am I talking about?
It's my husband.
Rrrring.
Hey, honey.
I'm getting off work right now and I want pork belly with my drink.
My husband drinks every night,
and he needs meat to go with his drink.
- He drinks at home.
- I have to grill the meat for him while he's drinking.
- Wow.
- Your highness. - Your highness.
- Does he think he's a king or something?
Honey.
Can you grill the meat today?
I'm so tired.
- What?
- Me?
You want me to do it myself?
And he wouldn't talk to me for a week because he got sulky.
- Why sulky?
- Just because of that.
- Please fix my husband.
- He's mean.
- This is bad.
- It's not easy to grill meat every day. - Of course.
- She can't sleep.
- And she needs to ventilate the air. - The smell gets into your clothes.
- She'll at least make money if she worked at a BBQ restaurant instead.
- Especially if you're not eating...
- I don't think that's right.
- Let's welcome our guest.
Please come out.
- So cool.
- Hello-o-o.
- Does he only eat meat when he drinks?
- Yes.
He only eats meat cooked on a grill. - Unbelievable.
- He gets off work around 10 to 11 pm.
So I have to prepare his meal
so he can eat as soon as he gets home. - So he can eat.
- I have to have everything ready.
- So he washes his hand and eats?
- Why are you talking so politely of him? - It sounds like you're mocking him.
Do you normally speak like that or are you mocking him?
- No.
This is how I talk to him.
- Because you sometimes talk very politely to mock someone.
You're eating a lot.
- Is this how you normally talk? - Yes.
- Why?
- He's six years older than me.
And this is how I've been educated since I was young.
- To someone superior.
- It's more comfortable for me to talk like this.
- How much does your husband drink?
- He drinks 2 bottles of soju every day.
And then a large pitcher of beer.
- Everyday? - Mixed.
- He drinks every day.
- Everyday? - Yes, every day.
- Wow.
- So I need to have everything ready,
and grill each piece of meat for him
while I'm standing up.
- What? - Why?
- I have to move quickly
if he needs something.
- You need to move quickly? - Yes, quickly.
- Does he give you some meat?
And eat together?
- No.
If I ask him for a piece,
he says that there's not enough.
- He doesn't even give you some beer? - No.
- Why not?
- He's too busy eating.
- You can just take some and eat. - Right.
- But I'm too upset to eat.
- Why don't you just grill some meat for him
and then go to bed?
- But he gets sulky.
- He gets sulky? - And he wouldn't talk for a week.
He puts on a ballad song
with a frown on his face.
- He makes the atmosphere depressing.
- Okay.
Let's meet the husband.
Where's the meat-loving husband?
- You don't understand her concern, right?
- If this is a concern,
everything should be a concern.
- Let me ask you then.
Why do you insist on having meat
when you're drinking?
- I get bad hangover the next day
if I eat anything else.
Grilled meat is the best for me.
- You can grill meat yourself.
- Right.
- It's hard to do it myself.
- Why? - Why?
- It's hard for your wife too. - Let's hear what he has to say.
- I worked hard all day,
and it's depressing for me to grill meat by myself even at home.
- It would be understandable if this happened once in a while.
- Preparing everything.
- She worked really hard.
But why won't you let her sleep?
- I just want to spend time with my wife,
and talk about the day.
- Then you should let your wife sit down.
Why are you making her grill the meat? - And drink together.
- Right.
- Haven't you grilled meat
when you were eating with your friends or colleagues?
You should've done it. Right?
- Someone might ask you.
To grill the meat.
- I can't remember.
- Wow...
- Why do you get sulky?
- I don't get sulky.
I don't talk much when I'm upset.
- That's being sulky. - Yes.
- Does he help you around the house?
- Right. Dishing washes and cleaning - Raising the child.
- He never helps me.
- Not at all? - No, he doesn't.
- Really?
- He comes home, drinks and sleeps.
He's never vacuumed the floor.
He didn't even clean the bathroom.
He has Saturdays and Sundays off,
and all he does is buys groceries.
He tells me not to bother him on Sundays.
- Then he just spends time alone
when he takes his Sundays off? - Yes.
He goes swimming,
and he sleeps. - Really?
- Your highness.
- Okay then.
BBQ grills can be heavy. - You should wash them for her.
- Shouldn't you at least wash the dishes?
- I don't like washing the dishes.
- No one likes washing the dishes.
- What about vacuuming?
- I don't like that either.
- Then why won't you play with the kids?
All you do is buy groceries.
- Yes, and I play with the kids while grocery shopping.
- While grocery shopping...
- Son.
- So cute. - Hello.
- You can sit down.
- What does your dad eats every night?
- Meat and alcohol.
- Do you like that your dad drinks every day?
- No.
- Why not?
- Because I can't sleep with him.
- If dad grills the meat, mom can sleep with the kids.
- Yes.
- Do you want to sleep with your mom?
- No.
I want to sleep with dad and mom.
- Together. - Together.
- Can we talk to Soo-young?
- Yes.
- Hi, Soo-young.
Say hello.
- Hello.
- Aww, so cute.
- How old are you?
- I'm...
- I have no idea what you're talking about.
- Do you like that your dad is eating meat and drinking every day?
- No.
- No, no. I see.
- Does it seem like your mom is having a hard time?
- Yes.
- She speaks well.
What do you think about the Presidential Election?
I think she'll know.
What I don't understand
more than the husband
is how the wife would
just obey him.
Right?
- No.
At first, I told him it was too much.
But he didn't care much. - He just got sulky.
- He takes it for granted. - And gets sulky.
- Then he shouldn't ask you to grill meat. - No.
He still asks me to grill meat.
- Even when he's sulky? - He still asks you to grill meat?
- Yes.
- Is there something about him
that makes you do this for him?
- Right. - He must have his charms.
- There must be something. - There must be something.
Tell us.
- There must be a reason.
- All questions sound weird if Dong-yeob says it.
What is your husband's charm?
- He's consistent.
- Pardon? - He's consistent.
That' even weirder. It got weirder.
- Because I love him.
- Because you love him? - Yes.
I think I give in because of our kids.
- And her personality is like that.
You said you were like that since you were young.
So giving in became a habit.
- Does your husband want a feminine woman?
- Yes. - Since when?
- When we were dating, I was once so stressed out from work.
Girls like to get makeovers sometimes. - That's right.
- So I cut my hair really short,
and he wanted to break up with me over that.
- Why?
- I guess he thinks that a woman is not feminine if her hair is short.
- That's bizarre.
- I was waiting for him to pick me up, and he just passed by me.
- Really? - Is he from the 19th century or something?
- Unbelievable.
- Is she right?
Is that why you wanted to break up with her?
- I was going to pick her up,
but I couldn't recognize her.
- You didn't recognize her. - I didn't recognize her standing there.
- So you just passed by her?
- Why did you tell her to break up then?
- I passed by her because I didn't recognize her,
but she asked me why I passed by.
And we ended up having a small fight
and I said that. - That's not true.
He still won't let me cut my hair short.
- Short hair. - Why is that?
She might need to cut her hair short
to do housework and look after the kids. - That's right.
- Because...
It looks good. - Wow, unbelievable.
- Is it weird if a short-haired woman grills meat for you?
- It's better if a long-haired woman grills it.
- My husband's role model is my mother-in-law.
She would de-bone grilled fish for him|
and put it on his spoon.
- For your husband? - Yes.
- Yikes.
- When he's all grown up.
I was really surprised to see that.
- So she raised him like a king. - Right.
- She spoiled him.
- She has short hair though.
- Can you relate to your daughter-in-law's concern?
You just heard her speak.
- Yes, I do.
I think my son is the same as his dad.
My husband is even worse.
- Really?
- Please come down here.
- I had to prepare his meal for 30 years.
- 30 years? - He can't go without meat as well.
I have to grill it for him. - Still?
- He never grills meat?
- Never.
- Why?
- He grew up seeing his mom grilling meat for his dad
while he drank.
- He thinks it's normal.
- Tae-sung will be like him in 25 years.
- No, Tae-sung.
- It must bother you
to see your son like this.
- I told him to change many times.
- You did. - But he won't change.
- What do you think is the hardest part for your daughter-in-law?
- It's probably the financial part.
It costs a lot for the meat and alcohol. - How much does it cost?
- I don't think they have very tight budget.
- We need 2 boxes of soju every month.
Also 30 pitchers of beer and
10 pounds of meat. - 10 pounds?
- It needs to be ready for him.
It costs about $600 for his meat and alcohol.
- Just for meat and alcohol?
Just for meat and alcohol.
- Expenses for eating out...
- That's separate. - Costs for eating out is separate.
$600 every month can be a burden.
- It's a fixed expense.
- It's a fixed expense. - I guess you have to cut down on your own expenses then.
- I haven't bought new clothes in 5 years.
I just wear what someone gives me.
- She has a tight family budget because of your meat and alcohol.
What do you think about that?
- I only have $300 allowance a month.
I don't think it's fair to reduce that.
- We're not talking about your allowance.
- It's your allowance plus $600.
- You're spending $900 alone.
- Spending almost $1,000. - You're spending almost $1,000.
- Oh...
But I can't reduce that.
Because I don't have any other way to reduce my stress then.
- You could eat something else when you drink.
If you have a tight budget.
- But then I get a hangover the next day.
- Then just don't drink. - Reduce your drinking.
- When we just got married, I'd ask him that I want to eat something
and he would say "Okay."
So I thought he had a lot of money.
- Like money saved up for extra spending.
When he was younger. - After 1 year, he showed me his debt.
It was $20,000.
- In one year?
- The debt was from spending money on food?
- $20,000. - Yes.
- It took 2 and a half years to pay off all the debt.
- Right.
You had to earn and save money to pay off the debt.
- I had to pay off the debt so I tried really hard to save money.
I don't think he feels sorry about that.
- Everyone these days is stressed out.
- Yes. - That's right.
- Saying that you can't find a way to relieve stress
other than drinking alcohol and eating meat is an excuse.
- It's an excuse. - Yes.
- It's hard to accept.
How do you relieve your stress?
- I had to raise the kids all by myself for 7 years,
and I just had to endure everything.
3 years ago, I took the courage
to buy a $5 coffee.
I actually spent a week debating over it.
So I bought the cup of coffee
and stared out the window. - Alone?
- Yes, alone.
I don't have any friends to meet now.
And if I go out, I have to spend money.
I'd rather buy a snack for my kids.
So I didn't go out much.
2 years ago, my neighbor introduced me to
a small garden that I can manage.
- When I'm working at the garden, he would call me 10 times in an hour.
- Why? - He asks me when I'm coming home.
And the 1 hour that I can relax...
- It's ruined. - It's ruined.
And I feel rushed so I go home.
- She might think that it's just 1 hour,
but it's really long for someone who's waiting at home.
- Even if she was out for 2 hours...
- She grills meat for you for 2 hours.
- Instead of planting in the garden just dig a deep hole.
Just keep digging.
Keep digging a deep hole
- Your wife debated for week
over buying a cup of coffee.
What do you think about that? Don't you feel sorry?
- Sorry...
- I'll just cut down on other expenses and drink it.
- What other expenses?
Let me ask you. - There's nothing else to cut down.
- What do you think she can cut down?
- Like installment savings. - Installment savings.
- Or maybe even insurance... - Why don't you reduce insurance for meat?
- You can't do that? - I can't cut down on meat.
- Why not?
- All those things are for the future.
You'll need money for your children's tuition,
and she doesn't want any debt like in the past.
But if you're telling her to cut down on other expenses...
What if you become financially unstable in the future?
You'll still eat meat then and you'll get even more financially unstable.
That's so wrong.
- What are you the most worried about?
- What really upsets me is that
I have 2-3 free hours when the kids are in kindergarten,
and he wants me to earn money for our family after 10 years. - What?
In 10 years? - In 10 years.
He said that he'll do housework then
and I should earn money. - Earn money?
- Yes. - He probably was joking.
- No, he wasn't.
- He was serious?
- Yes.
I'm preparing for a civil servant exam, and I feel pity for myself.
I haven't been studying since I gave birth to my kids,
and my career experience has pretty much stopped since I got married.
- I'm turning 55 years old in 10 years.
And I feel very unstable.
- How do you expect your wife to get a job in 10 years?
- That's what I want her to study. - Study what?
Be specific. - What can she study for?
- She could find something that suits her
or study the food items of the future.
- Food items of the future.
- What you should be saying is that you'll make her happy in 10 years.
- You shouldn't be telling her to go out and get a job.
- You said you used to work before you got married.
What did you do?
- I used to be a kindergarten teacher.
- That suits you well. - That suits you well.
- When I was working,
he told me to quit working because I have to look after the kids,
but now he wants me to go back to working.
It makes me mad.
And...
All this time...
I feel upset.
- Yet you speak very politely to him.
- It became a habit.
I want to yell at him too...
- You just think about it, right?
- Because she's so nice,
he keeps asking for more.
- If someone like her explodes one day.
Then...
- It's scary.
- It can get very serious.
What do you think?
- I'm not sure.
I didn't know her concern was so big.
I'm still not sure if it's a concern...
- It's like this.
She always respects him and does what he asks her to do,
so he just takes it for granted.
He doesn't know how she really feels.
Where else can you meet someone like her?
- You should've met someone like me.
- Then you'd eat the meat with him.
- What's even more shocking is that
you still don't think it's a concern
after hearing your wife speak.
- I'm not sure.
Who wouldn't have these kinds of concerns?
I think everyone lives with a concern.
- And you think there are other women who would do this every day?
- What do you think you'll do
if he doesn't change?
- I think I'll lose my faith in him.
And I'll have to rethink
my education method for the kids.
- Education method?
- Because of his father...
- It's passed on. - I don't want this to pass down to my son,
so I'll really have to think about it.
- Of course.
Because if he grows up seeing this,
he'll think that this is normal.
But our society is chancing and
it'll be really hard for him to fit into the society and also find a woman.
- There's no other women like you these days.
- What do you want to do the most if you're financially flexible?
- I hope that he can reduce his alcohol and meat,
so we can go on a family trip.
- You've never went on a family trip?
- We went on a family trip once,
but we have to pack our meals at home.
And since it costs money to use the shower facility,
we would have to bring big bottles of water.
I hope that he can cut down on some of his spending
so that we can go somewhere where there's a parasol,
so we can make some good memories with our children.
- Where there's a parasol?
- Yes.
- What kind of wish is this?
- She can't do this because of meat.
- I think the word 'patriarchal'
is a really good way of expressing him.
This is even worse. - Right.
- Really bad words Ar popping up in my head.
I feel like crying.
Because if someone is too nice...
If they're too nice...
You need to learn how to protect yourself.
It's like how we teach our kids
not to follow strangers and
how to say "No."
You have to say "No."
You have to protect your
own human dignity and rights.
Since you're out working and making money,
you think that she doesn't have a hard time at home, right?
- That's not true.
I know she works hard at home.
- Then why do you do that?
- Working outside is my job
and working inside the house is her job.
- But why do you make her work even when you get home from your work?
- Yes.
- It's part of her housework.
- Do you realize that
you're being treated like a king
and you're different from other husbands?
- Well...
Isn't it how it's supposed to be?
- No it's not.
- I really think you have no idea.
- The problem is not the meat.
But his way of thinking.
How he thinks...
It's really upsetting.
It's upsetting and...
What do you think about her wish
to go on a family trip?
- I think it's possible
for us to go on a family trip
if she plans well in advance.
- You're blaming on your wife.
- It's all her fault.
- You still think it's not a concern.
But you must've felt thankful to her
during your 7 years of marriage.
- I always feel thankful.
She takes care of the kids
and they greet me when I get home after work.
- That's right.
- I'm thankful that she's by my side.
- Do you express that often?
- I tell her I love her.
- Every day?
- Sometimes.
- Don't talk too politely today,
and tell him what you want from him,
just comfortably since you love each other.
- I know that you're worried about our future in 10 years.
I'm saving every penny that you're earning
so you don't have to worry about the future so much.
And I hope that you'll
clean the BBQ grill yourself.
- Tell him this too.
Tell him that you want to spend some time alone once a month.
Tell him since you're here.
- To relieve stress once a month...
- Let's go for once a week.
- There are 31 days in a month.
- I hope that you won't call and rush me
when I'm working at the garden once a month.
- It's a garden.
- Why do you need a permission for going out to the garden?
How can you ask for permission for something like that.
- Just be honest and tell him.
Tell him specifically how much you want to.
cut down for his meat costs.
- Let's cut down your food expenses in half.
- $300.
- Yes
- Let's start with Chi-yeol.
Do you think this is a concern?
- I think this is a big concern.
We talked about this before, but this will pass on to his son.
I don't think he can relate to other people very well,
so I think it's a concern.
- I think this is a concern too.
- I really think this is a concern.
They should change their roles on the weekend.
- So she sits down and eat meat?
- She sits down and eat meat?
While he's grilling the meat.
I think he should look after the baby while she goes out to relax.
He'll only realize if he's put in her shoes.
- Meet someone like me in your next life.
- You should be born as a male while he's born as a female.
- Right.
- Congratulations.
- Please press the button
if you think this is a concern for the wife.
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop. - You'll break the button.
- Please say something to your wife.
- My Jung-nim.
- You fall for this kind of stuff.
- I love you, care about you and respect you a lot.
I'm still not sure if this is a concern.
- The garden once a month.
- Oh...
But first,
if the audience thinks that this is a concern,
I'll try to change.
- He's negotiating with us.
- How many votes does it take to make it a concern?
- 100 votes?
-100 votes?
- Half of 200.
- It's a concern.
It's a concern.
- So you'll look at the votes first? How many votes did we get?
Please show us.
- It's over 150 votes.
It's 152 votes.
- Let's hope for 192.
- Let's go to the garden once a month.
The expenses for the meat.
132.
Husband.
- The promise.
You'll keep your promise, right?
- Okay?
Thank you.
Good job.
- Our next guest is terrified of being asked questions.
The title is 'Where do you come from?'.
Hello.
I'm a 30-year old male working as a car dealer.
My customers always ask me
where I come from.
As soon as I tell them where I'm from, their attitudes will change completely.
"This car is..." - "No, that's okay."
"Where are you from?"
- "I'm from the North."
- "What?"
"Hey."
"I want to see another employee."
"What would a North Korean know."
- I can't take it anymore.
- "I heard North Korea is full of starving people."
- So harsh.
- "I ate."
They will treat me like a beggar.
Right in front of my face.
- "They betrayed their country to come here and all they do is commit crimes."
"We need to send them back to the north."
- Some customers would talk really harshly.
When I escaped from North Korea, I had high hopes for my future.
I crossed the Duman River with my life at stake,
but I was faced with a greater wall, which is prejudice.
I really want to overcome this.
Please help me.
- It must be so upsetting.
- It's very upsetting to be ridiculed and ignored
just because you're from North Korea. - Yes.
- Let's meet our guest now.
Please come out.
- Hello-o-o.
Hello-o-o.
- He's so cute.
- He's cute.
- Please introduce yourself.
- Hello.
My name is Song Man-hyuk and I'm from Musan-gun in Hamgyungbuk-do.
It's been 10 years since I came to South Korea.
- 10 years.
- Please talk a little louder.
- You seem very intimidated - Yes.
- Be confident.
- Put your head up.
- I can't believe there are so many rude customers.
- It's been 8 years since I worked.
And 90% of the customers...
- You seem to speak the Seoul dialect better than me. - I think so too.
- My dialect is very dynamic.
I can't tell that you're from the North.
- I don't think I would know if you didn't tell me.
- Really.
- But if I keep talking with them...
- If you talk more comfortably.
- I can't pronounce 'eu' very well.
I have to say 'Grand' but I say Gurand.
- Gurand.
- Because of the pronunciation.
- You say 'u' instead of 'eu'.
- I say 'dung-gi' instead of 'deung-gi'.
And they would ask me where I'm from.
If I tell them I'm from North Korea,
they would start being very rude and bossing me around.
And they would just leave.
- You're in the service industry,
but can't you still take some action?
- Tell them not to do that.
- I could if I had a lot of connections...
- You have no connections.
- So I can't.
- Then he can't.
- So how do you react?
Do you just stay still? Or...
- I do what they ask me to do.
I used to love cars since I was in North Korea,
so I first got a part-time job at an auto-repair shop.
I used to have stronger dialect back then,
and a lot of customers didn't feel comfortable with it.
So I got fired there.
- You had a hard time. - I worked a lot of part-time jobs.
I never rode a motorcycle when I was in North Korea,
so I got in a deadly accident once.
- You got in an accident.
- Motorcycles can be dangerous.
- And I wanted to work in used-car dealership so much.
But I would fail all the interviews.
And I finally got into a company once, but they would isolate me.
I think I worked for almost 3 years without getting paid.
Without getting paid.
- Without getting paid.
- I just endured it for the love of cars,
but the company went bankrupt.
- The company?
- After 3 years.
- After enduring 3 years.
- A friend I knew from the company offered me to work at his new company.
- That's nice of him.
- And that's the company I'm working at right now,
so I have to give it my all.
- Did you accomplish a lot deals?
- I've been doing this job for a long time.
So there are many times I would almost accomplish the deal,
but if they hear my dialect, they'll cancel right away.
One time, a husband and wife in their 50s were riding in the car with me.
And they started saying that
all North Koreans are criminals and they need to be sent back to the North.
I couldn't even think about showing them a car.
So I handed them over to another employee and came home.
- That must feel so shameful.
How do your co-workers react when something like this happens?
- They're good friends.
So they encourage me to keep working hard.
- They must be very encouraging.
- To have friends like that.
- His friends who gives him a lot of courage and advice are here today.
Let's talk to them.
Welcome.
- Hello.
- Does he face a lot of prejudice at work?
- When he's talking to customers on the phone,
they would swear at him a lot.
- They think it's voice phishing?
- But they called first.
- He would try to explain to them, but they would just swear.
It's really difficult for him to talk to customers on the phone.
- And what else?
- Once, we went on a business trip for a purchasing deal.
The two of us.
Our customers were a young couple in their 20s,
and they seemed to be very alert.
They needed to get some documents in order for nominal transfer.
They went to the district office to get the documents, but wouldn't come back.
When they returned,
they came back with the police.
- Unbelievable.
- So we had to get investigated.
- For what?
- Human trafficking.
The customers told us later.
- That's harsh.
- I'm guessing that he has
a unique fashion sense.
- Don't even mention it.
He's...
- Why?
- He wears a white suit.
- A white suit?
- He would wear a white suit with red glasses.
- Red glasses?
- And he would wear a red jacket over a blue T-shirt.
Like the Korean flag.
2 years ago, he would wear earrings that H.O.T used to wear.
He once covered half of his face with hair.
2 years ago. - He probably wanted to do it.
- I watched a lot of Korean dramas when I was in North Korea.
- You really wanted to try it.
We should talk about this first.
- But in which Korean drama
did they wear a white suit with red glasses?
- In which drama?
- Who wore a hair like that?
- It was in 'Autumn in My Heart'.
- Someone wore a white suit in 'Autumn in My Heart'?
- It looked nice with earrings.
- Your friends must've made fun of you a lot.
- They would ask me if I went to North Korea the other day.
- Really?
- Now I just wear what my friends wear.
I would buy the same watch or wallet as my friends.
- That's pretty safe.
- So, he must make less deals.
But I heard that all profit is equally divided among the employees.
- He doesn't make as much deals.
But I learned this job from him.
- You did?
- He always comes to work early and studies.
There's a lot to learn from him. - He's very hard working.
- If he's not making as much deals, he wouldn't even eat and just work.
He comes to work the earliest and leaves work the latest.
- He wouldn't even eat?
Does someone grill meat for you at home?
Why won't you eat?
- It's my dream to work in the automobile industry.
And I have to take responsibility as well.
I feel really bad to my friends
when my performance is not as great.
- So you don't even spend money on food?
- Have you made any effort
to overcome people's prejudice?
- I just thought I should change 3 things
when I started used car dealership.
My accent and...
- Fashion.
- Why are you making it 4 things?
It's just 3 things.
- I used to weigh just 48kg.
I am really short
and I used to be really skinny.
- Wow, 48kg.
- So I thought I should change my accent, gain weight and study cars.
- So I studied automobiles
at a college.
- Wow.
- So I would binge eat
and then lie down.
- On purpose?
- I just wanted to gain a few more pounds but I ended up becoming 80kg.
- Isn't that too much? - You just wanted to gain a little more.
- I just wanted moderate weight gain.
- And?
- I would get out of breath when I was showing cars to my customers.
- Out of breath.
- So I lost weight by exercising.
- How did you study for Seoul dialect?
- When I meet friends from North Korea... - Friends from North Korea.
- The next day people would say
that my accent got stronger.
- Right, right.
- So I deleted the numbers of all my friends from North Korea
and stopped talking to them. - On purpose.
- Because I would speak in heavy accent after meeting them.
- I get strong accents when I talk to my parents. - That's right.
- I didn't talk with my grandmother too. - On purpose?
With your grandmother?
For how long?
- For about 3 months.
- To change the accent.
- Yes, because my grandmother has a strong accent.
So I kept following her accent.
- Your friends from North Korea probably got upset.
- Right.
- Not meeting them on purpose.
- A lot of friends
asked why I didn't call them.
- One of your friends from North Korea is here today.
Let's have a talk with him.
Hello.
- Hello.
- Nice to meet you
How do you know our guest?
- There was a high school for newcomers from North Korea,
and I met him there.
- What are you doing for a living?
- I work at a construction site.
- That's not a problem.
- So you must understand our guest's concern.
- After I graduated from school,
I applied to about 30 companies.
But I failed all the interviews.
They all ask me where I'm from.
Because I have a strong accent.
As soon as I tell them I'm from North Korea, their faces would change.
And they wouldn't contact me.
I finally got into one company,
but they wouldn't even talk to me.
When I suggested an idea, they would completely ignore it.
And just tell me to do what I'm asked.
So I left the company because I couldn't stand it.
- It's really difficult.
- I knew that it would be hard for newcomers from North Korea to settle down,
but I didn't think it would be this bad. - I know.
- He doesn't have trouble with other people, right?
- He's cold.
- He's cold?
- I think he has a wall against others.
- He treats people coldly. - There's a wall.
- For example, when a restaurant worker asks him "Isn't the weather cold?"
he could reply "Yes,"
but he tries to ignore it.
- His reaction. - His nerves are on the edge.
- I think he's very alert. - He's very alert.
- Are you trying to avoid a conversation?
- Yes.
- I used to be like that too when I was young.
I thought they would give me less food if I said "Can I get stir-fried pork rice,"
because I have an accent.
So I would just say "A stir-fried pork rice..."
Just that.
I would just say that.
I could say "Can I turn on the fan?"
But I would just say
"the fan...."
Saying just the noun.
- That's wise.
- When I first met him, we ate fried chicken.
I asked him "There's no fried chicken in North Korea, right?"
And he started swearing at me...
- At you?
- Yes, all of a sudden.
When we first met.
So we fought,
and had a fist fight.
- Really?
- Why?
What is this about?
- Questions asking if there are chicken or pizza in North Korea.
- It can be annoying.
- Because there really isn't.
So it felt like an insult.
I have a habit of not leaving leftovers.
And my co-worker would ask me,
"Are you eating all your food
because you were starved in North Korea?"
- That's mean.
- So I got really angry.
- He could've innocently asked that but you might've taken it the wrong way.
Are there overweight women in North Korea?
- There aren't.
- There aren't? - There aren't.
- Did you see?
She did the cross-jump.
I think they were asking you
because they were really curious and didn't mean to insult you.
Don't you think you were overreacting a little?
- But I don't even want to hear
the word 'North Korea' anymore.
Because... - You don't even want to think about it.
- Because I've had so many disadvantages
just because I'm from North Korea.
When I first came to Korea, I worked at a construction site.
And the supervisor would pay us.
I worked for about 6 months and I didn't get 2 months of payment.
- They still do that?
- I worked really hard for 2 years.
And at the company that went bankrupt after 3 years,
I got beaten up really badly.
- Beaten-up? - Beaten-up?
- By the CEO?
Why?
- The employees heard that the company would go bankrupt a week before.
And the CEO was trying to sell the company.
So I told him that I'm going to work somewhere else,
and he trapped me inside a car and I got beaten up by 3 people. - 3 people?
- You should've called the police.
- But he apologized. So I just let it go...
- You must've been so mad.
- Did you know about this?
- Yes, and he couldn't go home so he was staying at a motel.
His eyes were swollen and bruised.
- He got beaten up real bad.
- He said it's okay because he got an apology.
It was so frustrating.
- How do you manage your anger?
When something like this happens?
- I live with my grandmother.
- Right.
And you don't want her to find out.
- She had a hard time when my father passed away 3 years ago.
She had lost her child.
And on top of that, my grandfather passed away a year ago.
I'm all she has left, so I just endure everything for her.
- You're enduring it all.
- Your grandmother couldn't be here at the studio today,
so we got her on the phone.
Let's have a talk with her.
Hello.
- Yes.
- Yes, hello. Nice to meet you.
- Hello.
- Thank you.
- Did you know that your grandson is going on TV?
- Yes.
- How do you feel?
- I feel very honored.
- What do you mean?
It's an honor for us that he's here.
- How is your grandson like?
- He's a grandson like no other.
- He said that he didn't talk to you
for 3 months to learn the Seoul dialect.
Did you know about this?
- Yes, I knew.
It's better now, isn't it?
- Yes.
- It got a lot better. - I thought he was from Seoul.
- Thank you.
- When are you the most proud of your grandson?
- I'm so proud of him for bringing up the courage to go on the show today.
- That's right.
It takes a lot of courage.
- Grandmother.
- Yes.
- You must've thought it was a good choice to come to South Korea,
but have you ever regretted it?
- When we first came here from North Korea, we thought we were in heaven.
The joy...
It was amazing.
There were a lot of cars and we thought we were in heaven.
But what bothers me is that
we were ripped off a lot here.
- How do you want your grandson to live here in South Korea?
- I want him to be a good person.
No less than others.
- He's not married yet, right?
- Yes, he's not married.
It'll be appreciated if you could fix him up with someone nice.
- What kind of woman do you want him to meet?
- I want someone as strong as him.
- You want someone strong?
- Yes.
- Is it okay if she's older than him?
- Yes, if she's smart.
- She weighs a lot more than him.
- That's a bit...
- Grandmother.
- Yes?
- Is there anything you want to say to your grandson?
- I hope that he'll do the job that he is given successfully,
and that he'll be a helpful citizen to the country.
- Thank you.
- Please say something to her.
- I know you're having a hard time because grandfather passed away,
but I hope you'll be healthy and live a long life.
- Tell her.
- Tell her that you love her.
- He's overwhelmed with emotion.
- Oh no.
- Grandmother.
- Yes.
- Your grandson is crying.
- Is he a fool?
- What?
- Is he a fool...
- Grandmother, thank you. - Please stay healthy.
Thank you.
- Thank you.
- Do you have a girlfriend?
- If I was handsome like Hyun Bin...
- That's impossible.
- Please appeal yourself.
- Please show us.
- I'm not confident because of my accent.
And I give a lot of gifts when I meet a girl which can sometimes be too much.
- Gifts... - Right.
Too much gifts can be uncomfortable.
- Didn't you give him some tips on dating?
- I used to before.
But now I gave up.
- Why? - Why?
- He'll fall in love with
someone he just met
- Really? - It's because he's too innocent.
- He'll buy her everything she wants
and he'll even lend her his car and take cabs to work.
- Yikes.
- And he would do a surprise balloon event in the car. - What event?
- Balloons.
Balloons.
- How long does he meet someone before he does that?
- 3 days.
- A balloon event in 3 days?
- A balloon event in 3 days...
It's like a proposal.
- And he can't reach her afterward. - Don't women like that?
- He couldn't reach her afterward.
- There was a balloon event scene in a sitcom I did 20 years ago.
They don't do that nowadays...
- Who taught you that?
- When I watched a drama...
- A drama again...
- Was it an old drama?
- Or recent drama? - It looks so nice in dramas.
- You should watch recent dramas.
- Recent dramas. - They're nice.
- I think you're too stuck in 'Autumn in My Heart'.
- Tell him what kind of guys are popular these days.
- Yes.
- A guy with rugged kindness.
Someone who's cold on the outside but warm on the inside.
- Right. - That's right..
- Something like this.
"I just picked one up on my way here."
- Yes, right. Something like that.
- I just picked this up on my way here.
- Pretend like you just met her and try to have a conversation.
- Yes, try it.
- A blind date with Oh My Girl.
- Go first.
"Hello." Start the conversation.
- Is this a blind date?
- Hello.
- You need to talk. What are you doing?
- Wait a minute.
Don't check her out when you just met her.
- Did you see that in a drama too?
It can be really uncomfortable.
- I know you're nervous so your lips are getting dry,
so you keep doing this.
But don't do that after you checked her out.
- Let's pretend this is a blind date.
Say hello first.
- Hello. - Hello.
Are you...
- You shouldn't ignore her.
- You need to talk.
You can ask her
"where do you live?"
- You need to try. - I can't talk to her.
- What?
- I can't talk to her. - Hyo-jung, talk to him first.
Talk to him first.
- How old are you?
- I'm 30 years old.
- Really? You look young.
- Thank you.
- You should compliment her back.
- You're not talking.
- You're very pretty.
- And he'd do a balloon event in 3 days.
- After not talking.
- What a surprise.
- There would be surprise balloons.
- I'll show you.
I'll show you how it's done.
- Hello. - Hello.
You look very pretty.
- No, you're being too kind.
- What is your hair color?
- It's orange.
- It looks nice. It looks great with your skin tone.
- Really?
- I heard an angel came down from the sky, and here you are.
- Hyo-jung,
isn't he such a player?
- It's a text bubble.
- This is Tae-jun.
- Hello. - Hello.
- This is Ji-ho.
Tae-jun, stay out of this.
Stay out of this.
- You stay out of it too.
I'm going to the hospital.
- Hello. - Hello.
- How old are you?
- I'm 27 years old. How old are you?
- I'm 21 years old.
- Nice. - You're 21?
Can I talk comfortably?
What do you do these days?
What do you like?
- I like to watch movies.
And I like to listen to music.
- Let's go watch a movie then.
- Really?
What movie do you like?
- I like everything.
Are you close with Young-ja?
- I'm her mother.
- Try it.
Ask her how old she is and suggest to go see a movie.
Try it.
- Hello.
- How old are you? - I'm 30 years old.
- I'm 21 years old.
- I see.
- Talk comfortably.
I'll talk comfortably since I'm older.
- Cue.
- Can I do it with a guy?
- What are you talking about?
- Just try it. You have to.
- Just give it a try.
- I'll speak comfortably.
- Just try it. - What do you like?
- Hello.
How old are you?
- I'm 30 years old.
- Oh really? I'm 21 years old.
- Really?
- You can talk comfortably.
- I'll talk comfortably then.
- Okay.
- What do you like?
- You said you were going to talk comfortably.
- You said you were going to speak comfortably.
You said you were going to speak comfortably.
What do you like?
- I like movies.
- I like pork feet.
Tell him you like movies. - I like movies.
- Do you want to go watch a movie then?
- Yes.
- Good job. - That's how you should talk.
- It's great.
- It's so upsetting to see him so intimidated.
- Try not to trap yourself and
break free from people's prejudice.
I think it'll help you
become more successful in your career and relationships.
- The reason why I came on this show
is to change the way I'm thinking.
- You should be more confident.
If someone tells you to go back to North Korea...
Just laugh it off.
After all, they're all human
- You can try to take it more lightly.
If someone says "There's no chicken or pizza in North Korea, right?"
just tell them "Yes, and I love that I can eat it here."
Just take it more lightly.
- Have you ever tried a North Korea-style sausage?
- Yes.
- Like "have you ever tried cold chicken soup?"
- "Have you ever been to the original Hamheung cold noodle restaurant?"
- You can learn to accept it
and be humorous about it
to carry on conversations with people.
- I think it's really important that you stay confident.
- Last question.
Are there really no overweight women in North Korea?
- There were a lot of people who had prejudice against you.
Why don't you say something to them.
- Yes.
- I came to Korea with a dream,
and I hope you won't look at me differently than other people.
I'll try to be more cheerful and
approach people without prejudice as well.
- Say something to your friends.
They're really good friends.
- Thank you for helping me through everything
and I love you, guys.
- Let's see if this is a concern.
- He can overcome this,
but I don't think prejudices are easily broken.
So I think this is a concern.
- I think it's a concern too.
Prejudice can be difficult to deal with but I hope he smiles more.
You look great when you smile.
- Ji-ho.
- I don't think this is a concern.
I think a lot of people's perceptions
will change after today's show.
- Please press the button if you think this is a concern.
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Okay. - Stop.
- Please say something to your friend.
- I know that you work harder than anyone else,
and I believe everything will turn out for the better.
I hope you feel less burdened.
I love you, buddy.
- The next friend.
- Let's rely on each other until the day we succeed. Let's cheer up!
- Let's cheer up.
- I wonder how many votes
this concern got. Let's see.
1st place as 132 votes.
Let's see if he can beat the man who eats meat every day.
- That's not easy.
- Thank you.
- A good guy?
A bad guy.
Hello.
I married my husband because he seemed like a nice person.
But actually...
- Actually...
- He's too nice.
- What?
- Did you post photos from our trip on your SNS?
Why did you post them? Delete them.
- Why? Why?
It must be upsetting for people who can't go on trips to see that.
- So nice.
- Oh no.
- As a matter of fact,
why did we get this ticket when we don't even have a car?
"My friend wanted to buy a car under my name."
"Things must not be working out too well for him."
"Tsk tsk."
- Oh no.
- Oh my god. - That's too much.
- The biggest problem is,
"Honey, I feel really sick."
"Can you take me to the hospital?"
But I have a business trip today and if I don't go, other employees will suffer.
Can you be sick after 2 days?
- So cruel.
- He is on other people's sides.
I expose my husband who is
a good guy to others and the worst guy to me.
- This must be a concern.
- Let's welcome the wife who is concerned from her husband.
Please come out.
- Aye, aye.
Is he really always on other people's sides
and doesn't think about you at all?
- He's always on other people's sides.
- Really.
- You must have a lot of pent-up anger.
Can you tell us more?
- From deep within.
- I thought this was an acting audition.
- I...
I almost got in a fight with him today.
If I tell him about a conflict I had with someone else,
he finds a way to blame me first. - So upsetting.
- He should be on your side.
- My husband is supposed to be on my side
but he's always on someone else's side.
He'll lend his name for cellphones.
- Without telling you?
- Lending his name for cellphones?
- He even paid for the fees.
- He paid for the fees?
- Wow. - That's no good.
- It's so strange that he let someone buy a car under his name.
- His name?
- He lent out his name.
- That can turn into a trouble.
- He's the king of kindness - King of kindness.
- That darn kindness.
- I found out after I got married that
our in-laws handed down a gravesite and a house for us.
- A house and a gravesite? - Yes.
- You fund out after you got married?
Or did you know before?
- I knew that they were going to hand us down a house,
but not the gravesite.
He lost the two gravesites.
- He lost them?
- Gravesites... He lost two of them?
- Yes.
- Why? - Because of what?
- It must be because of surety.
When someone loses their assets, it's most likely due to surety.
- He lost the house because of the surety.
- He lost the house too?
- He bought all these stuff for his junior colleagues because they were poor.
And then he couldn't handle the card debt.
- He just paid with his credit card?
And then he had to pay off his card debt? - Oh my god.
- Did he get better now?
- I wouldn't be here then. - That's right.
I'm sorry.
- Why did I do that?
- We got a ownership of an apartment
in a prime location.
- That's great.
- So I tried to buy it,
ad my husband gave it away.
- Why?
What's the reason?
- To give it to someone else? - He said it would be great news if
I give this up for someone who's on the waiting list.
- Oh no. - Not because he didn't have the money?
- What is this?
- With a humanitarian mindset.
- Helping other people.
- Did you not know that he was like this before you got married?
- My husband was pick-pocketed once,
and the pick-pocketer threw away his wallet in the washroom.
And my husband said
"He probably took it because he needs it."
- He's being considerate.
- The king of kindness.
Hello.
- Hello.
- Wow.
Great first impression. - He has great first impression.
- Really.
He as great first impression.
- Can you understand your wife's concern?
- I believe we were all educated
to be considerate and kind to others.
So I thought it might be a problem that
this is considered as a concern.
- Why are you making it sound so difficult?
- You have a really nice voice.
- So do you think that your wife didn't get proper education?
They don't talk about lending out
your name in our public education.
- Give up your home ownership
for someone else...
- They don't talk about how those
on the wait list will be upset.
- There could be many ways for us to buy that home,
but I thought it might be better to
give it to someone who's more desperate. - To someone who's more desperate?
That desperate person is your wife.
- Right.
- I tried really hard to
win that home ownership. - Exactly.
- Yes.
- But we couldn't buy our house
so we were almost left homeless.
- What do you think about your wife financially suffering?
- I think being considerate does not depend
on whether you're rich or poor.
If there's any way I can help...
- So you don't feel bad
that you lost your house that your parents handed down?
- They handed it down to you.
- I feel especially sorry for my parents.
I once had to ask for surety myself,.
and even my closest acquaintances rejected.
So I was really shocked.
- "How can they do this to me?"
- Later, when I had a house,
a close friend of mine asked me to stand surety for him.
And it reminded me of myself in the past.
- Because you had a hard time.
- This is...
- I didn't care if I couldn't get my money back.
- This is the pattern analyzed by experts.
Normally, those who are excessively nice to someone else
has been hurt in the past.
- Because of the trauma.
- So they think that the other person
will be hurt if they refuse.
So this is what you're going through. - That's right.
- So you're not standing surety anymore...
- He's not in the position to stand surety for anyone.
- He's not?
- He has no house and gravesites anymore.
- He has no securities?
- He hasn't stopped caring for other people though.
- He hasn't stopped?
- What else...
- After 3-4 years after we got married, we had some financial problems.
And one of his junior colleagues came to see him.
- Another junior colleague.
- He was an insurance seller. - Insurance seller.
- My husband had a few insurances,
and he canceled all of them.
And he put everything into this insurance.
So... - How much did he lose?
- It was hard to maintain this insurance because he put so much into it.
So he had to cancel it all.
In the end.
- Cancellation. - So we lost about $30,000 to $40,000.
- Isn't this really bad?
Changing all your insurance.
- He worked really hard to prepare for this job. - Everyone does.
- When he was explaining to me,
he suggested some packages to me.
So I discussed with my wife and changed our insurance.
- So you weren't against it at first?
- No.
I was against it from the beginning.
But he would persuade me with his quiet voice.
- That's hard to resist.
- I think I know what he's like.
- When she hates it so much.
- So I become a really mean person if I refuse.
Like I'm ruining someone's life.
- The wife...
- Right, it's hard for you to say no.
- He must have a lot of friends though.
- There are a lot of people that are thankful of him.
But they're not the ones that got my husband's help.
The people that he stood surety for and bought insurance from,
cannot be reached anymore.
- Really?
- My husband was living with a junior colleague before we got married.
He didn't pay for any living expense,
and my husband actually felt sorry
that he had to go live somewhere else.
So he gave one of our marriage gifts
to him as a present.
- Marriage gift... - He didn't even pay living expenses.
- But he didn't even come to our wedding
nor our kids' birthdays.
- What? - What kind of colleague is that?
- What colleague was he?
- Aren't you upset?
You did all these things for him.
- What are you going to do if he sees this?
- What?
- I... - He needs to see this
and realize what he did wrong.
- I can't even talk about this.
Because...
- He was my roommate,
and he couldn't come to our wedding because he had a show on weekends.
He became a famous actor now.
- Really?
- He could've come to your wedding or your kids' birthdays then.
- Even a text message. - I think I might get a chance to
see him later. - But he never called my husband
nor sent a little gift, ever.
- Do you still wish the best
for that colleague?
- Yes.
- Then tell us his name so that he'll become more famous.
- He'll become famous. - So that he can become more famous.
- He might've felt a little betrayed
to hear that I was getting married...
- What...
- You need to get married someday.
- What are you sorry for?
He was living at your place.
- I'm really curious,
was there a decisive reason
that made you act like this?
- I was a late-born child.
My mom was like my grandmother.
She used to always tell me
not to harm others and help them.
So I think it became a habit for me.
- She told you not to harm others,
not to harm your own wife.
- She became my family.
So I thought she was another me,
so I neglected her a little. - No, no.
You shouldn't think like that.
You need to treat her like the others.
In fact, you need to treat her better. - You shouldn't treat others like her.
- He's so considerate of the people around him.
One time, a friend of mine was sick.
- Your friend?
- To be honest, she's not a friend but my kid's classmate's mom.
That's how I got close to her.
- A mom.
- She had back pain so she couldn't move.
So my husband told me to bring them some food.
So I prepared their whole family's meal,
and gave it to them while it was still hot.
- Wow.
- I heard that he asked
if you could get sick 2 days later. - Right.
- How does he act when you're sick?
- I was hospitalized because of shingles last year. - That must've been hard.
- It's really painful... - Yes.
- Do you know? - Yes.
- And my husband...
- You'll get in trouble if you don't.
- I know. It turns out that I know.
- You have to know.
- I went to the hospital and they told me to stay there for a few days.
And my husband asked me "Can you get sick 2 days later?"
"Can you stay in the hospital after 2 days?"
"I might go on a business trip."
That's what she said.
The business trip wasn't even confirmed.
And he called me when I was in the hospital
and asked me if I could do the laundry.
- To someone in the hospital?
- Yikes. - That's harsh.
- What is this?
- Why did you do that? She was in the hospital.
- So did you do the laundry?
- Yes.
- Did you do it?
- You did.
- I went home to do the laundry.
- He might have something to say.
- The pile of laundry was overwhelming to me.
- Laundry...
- It might be difficult, but if she had time...
If she could come and do that...
I would be thankful. - It doesn't matter if she had time,
she was sick in the hospital?
- The situation was overwhelming to me...
- The overwhelming laundry.
She had overwhelming shingles.
You should know that... - You could divide the laundry.
- He would help other families
when they're sick.
He would've done the laundry for them.
- I would've looked up the internet. - See?
- That's mean.
- It's upsetting.
- He takes her for granted.
- What if you ask the mom that your wife helped out,
to cook some meals for your wife.
Because you helped them out before.
Can you say that? - Right.
- I couldn't.
- There's a guy who only eats meat that his wife grills for him.
It's because his father was like that.
And he grew up seeing his father,
so he thinks that's normal.
Your kids will grow up seeing their dad?
So they'll probably be affected.
How are they?
- When we were in the waiting room,
the kids couldn't sit still. - Right.
Kids are like that. They keep moving.
- But he keeps telling them to stay still and be considerate.
He forces them to be considerate all the times.
- It must be hard for them. - Right.
The eldest son is already considerate.
He's sitting still.
- The pile of laundry...
That's what I was trying to do.
- His younger brother was playing around,
and he went like this.
- Wow.
- Like this.
- Wow.
- I'm strong, right? - Yes.
- There was a time when I felt really sorry for the kids..
My husband and I had to work when we were financially unstable,
and we went to a kindergarten to do a performance there.
I asked him to bring our kids to the kindergarten.
They were 3 ad 6 years old.
But my husband said that it would be bothersome for the kindergarten staff.
That we can't take the kids with us when we're getting paid to do a job.
So we left them inside the car.
- Just the kids? - Yikes.
- So we did a 2-hour performance and came back to our car.
And our son's pants were wet. So I asked him,
"What happened, Si-yoon?"
We gave him a bottle of beverage, so he drank it and then he needed to pee.
So he peed in the bottle but it overflowed so his clothes got wet.
He was scared of being scolded by his dad,
so he said "It's okay, it'll get dry soon."
It was so heartbreaking for me. - What?
They probably stayed in the car because they were asked to do so.
- They didn't come out of the car because their dad told them not to.
- Oh no. - So...
- That was a dangerous situation.
- Why did you do that?
What's wrong if you take your kids with you?
- Right.
- We were there to help and
I didn't want my kids to make any trouble.
Fortunately, they played well on their own,
so I didn't think it would be
that much of a problem.
- Do you realize now
what you did was wrong?
- Yes, I think that was one of my worst decisions in life.
It's something that I shouldn't have done.
- Let's talk to the eldest son.
- The eldest son.
- Let's talk to their sons.
Hi, what is your name? Can you introduce yourself?
- Hello.
I'm Nam Do-yoon and I'm in 5th grade.
- You need to be more considerate and speak louder.
A little louder - 12 years old.
What is the younger brother's name? - Aww, so cute.
- Hello.
My name is Nam Si-yoon and I'm in 2nd grade.
- You seem like you're as old as your older brother.
- Do you know why your parents are here?
- My mom is sick but my dad doesn't help her much.
- They can see everything.
- Dad cares for everyone else but not for us.
- Bingo.
You're right.
That's the answer.
- How does he care for others?
How did he care for others and not for you?
When we went camping,
he would give the candies to us last.
- He gave the candies to other kids first and then to you last?
- Yes.
- I think he gave you all remaining candies though.
- Don't you think he cared for you more?
- Did he tell you not to harm others too?
- Yes.
- But you've caused harm once, right?
- Maybe.
- Tell us.
You talked when your teacher told you not to, right?
- Yes.
- You ate a lot when they asked you to eat a little, right?
- Yes.
- That's causing harm. - He's so down to earth.
Are you afraid of saying something bad
or rejecting someone's request?
- I think when I had to say something bad,
I asked someone else to do it.
Asking someone to say it instead.
- It's not bad to be considerate of others.
- Yes. - It's a good thing.
- Being considerate is good.
- But you shouldn't be a bad father and bad husband
just to be considerate to others.
You should be considerate of your family first,
and then they'll have higher self-esteem and be more considerate of others.
- I think you should care less about what other people think,
and don't be afraid to say no.
That way, you can stop being angry at your wife.
Releasing all your stress on your wife. - Right.
- Let's start with Ji-ho first.
- I think it's a concern. - So handsome.
- I think you need a happy family. - Yes, a happy family.
- In order to help others.
- Hyo-jung. - I think it's a concern.
- I think it's a concern too.
I think he's a really good person,
so I hope he'll become a better person for his family.
- Please press the button if you think this is a concern.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - Stop.
- Husband.
Please say something to your wife and kids.
- Umm...
- Wife, or honey...
- They must love each other.
- How do you call your wife?
- Honey.
I feel like I kept disappointing you
by breaking promises and I'm really sorry.
I'll try to change and
put our family before anything else.
- I hope you keep your promises.
132 votes.
Can this concern take victory?
Let's see.
136.
- 136...
- Being considerate versus meat.
- Is it 56?
196?
- Wow.
- Was it that big of a concern?
- It's the biggest concern.
- So 'A good guy, a bad guy' takes this week's victory.
Congratulations.
Here's your prize.
- For a healthy nation without concerns.
- We are always on your side.
- Thank you.